Get Out of Mind Jail by reverend nicholas barrett nicholas barrett

Author:reverend nicholas barrett, nicholas barrett
Language: eng
Format: epub
Published: 2019-01-06T16:00:00+00:00

CHAPTER FOUR

Habits

The choices we make today stem from the time we first started to make them. We don’t do them just because we decided to do them today. We get into a habit of living a certain way. A habit is a behavior that becomes part of us through repetition. Very simply, if somebody has a habit of being untidy, that’s something that they’ve developed. It’s coming from how they feel within themselves, but it’s also one of the habits they have created. For example, if a person hoards all kinds of things in their car, it is likely that if they kept a rental car for three or more weeks, that it would look exactly the same way as their own car. There is a reason for all behaviors. People who hoard may have a stronghold in an emotional area of their lives, want to avoid making decisions, or are perfectionists who want to avoid making the wrong decision. This is also a good indicator that they grew up within an unsettled, insecure home. This behavior is then their mirror of that unsettled state they feel from within that has now manifested from their childhood.

Your quality of life today is very much determined by how you have dealt with all that has passed before. How content you are comes from the habits of what you focus your eyes on. How sound or unsound you are is from your diet, what you put into your body—not only through your mouth, but also your eyes and ears. What you do on a daily basis forms the things you believe in, and from that, the person you choose to be. In effect, your habits become your life.

For example, let’s focus on the habit of lateness. I think it is safe to assume that most of us, if candid, would say that being late is inconsiderate to those it affects, but this is not the explanation. There are several reasons for chronic lateness. The reason in most cases is a psychological one. This can be an unconscious reaction to something that was predicated from childhood. It can be to fill a void for attention. Maybe a sibling was seen as favorite. This came from the assumption of them getting more praise and attention. Maybe late persons enjoy the attention they get from making an arrival, then excitedly describing to the person or group of people waiting what a tough time they had getting there. This will usually result in a reaction of sympathy (at least from people who don’t know that something or other always seems to detain them.) Or maybe they grew up with a parent or parental figure who was harsh and used their lateness to draw attention to themselves so they could feed their broken pieces with forgiveness and empathy. In some cases, it can also be that they are totally unaware or uninterested it what others think or feel when they are left waiting for 10, 20, or even 30 minutes.

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